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| Hi everyone, I have lived in Los Angeles (Ladera Heights) all my life (26 years) and graduated with a B.A. in Business Economics from UCLA and received my MBA from the USC Marshall School of Business last year. I have a great job as a consultant with a major firm but I feel like I am missing a significant other that is on my level. Ideally I woul dlove to marry a black man but the problem is most black men in this town are to busy chasing white Becky's or Hispanic Maria's rather than a black woman. I am open to interracial relationships myself but I feel most non-black men just are not interested or at least have shown interest that I am aware of. I am not unattractive or overweight (I am 5'8" and 125 pounds) as I work out just about every day and I am not "loud and aggressive" as some black men love to stereotype us. I really like this Latino guy at work and we always joke around in the office on our free time but I think he just sees me as a friend. Do you guys have any tips on how to approach him without scaring him off. I think many non-black men and black men alike look at black women as not being feminine and being aggressive. That is what makes me nervous about coming on to him because he might also have those stereotypes of black girls. Like I said it is not easy finding love for an educated black women to find someone on her level. I have also thought about using dating sites but I know that black women are the least responded to on those sites but who knows maybe I will in the near future. I know I should have put this in the relationship forum but since I live in L.A. I figured maybe you guys have can steer me in the right direction. |
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| Most men like it when women approach them. A straight forward woman is often a rarity. And I frequently see white guy/black woman couples on the Westside and in Silver Lake. Seems like its becoming more and more common as black women climb the economic ladder at a much higher rate than black men these days. |
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| Maybe they need to start chasing black Shaniquas. |
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| Quote: Originally Posted by TTTT1 Hi everyone, I have lived in Los Angeles (Ladera Heights) all my life (26 years) and graduated with a B.A. in Business Economics from UCLA and received my MBA from the USC Marshall School of Business last year. I have a great job as a consultant with a major firm but I feel like I am missing a significant other that is on my level. Ideally I woul dlove to marry a black man but the problem is most black men in this town are to busy chasing white Becky's or Hispanic Maria's rather than a black woman. I am open to interracial relationships myself but I feel most non-black men just are not interested or at least have shown interest that I am aware of. I am not unattractive or overweight (I am 5'8" and 125 pounds) as I work out just about every day and I am not "loud and aggressive" as some black men love to stereotype us. I really like this Latino guy at work and we always joke around in the office on our free time but I think he just sees me as a friend. Do you guys have any tips on how to approach him without scaring him off. I think many non-black men and black men alike look at black women as not being feminine and being aggressive. That is what makes me nervous about coming on to him because he might also have those stereotypes of black girls. Like I said it is not easy finding love for an educated black women to find someone on her level. I have also thought about using dating sites but I know that black women are the least responded to on those sites but who knows maybe I will in the near future. I know I should have put this in the relationship forum but since I live in L.A. I figured maybe you guys have can steer me in the right direction. I can sympathize with you, having such a daughter myself (28) and a couple of other young, educated black women that I have come to respect and care for as though they were my daughters. My daughter is at about the same place as you are with regard to "dating out." I think--and this has been a subject of many discussions with my daughter--that you will need to take the lead in that kind of move, but it has to be a subtle move. Why all this subtlety? Because he has his own questions about such a relationship in general to answer as well as questions about romance itself. Believe it or not, men can't read your mind, and we're not very good at "reading the air" either. Basically, he doesn't really know where your head is at on those questions until you let it be known. Where is your head at with regard to: 1. Are you in favor of male-female relationships in general? IOW, are you straight? Clearly, they will have to be men who share many other interests with you, because in many cases it will be just the two of you. You will have to let it be generally known while you're in each other's "friendzone" that you're looking for a serious relationship. Then, a bit later, subtly let it be known to him that you don't have anyone else...that has to be very subtle, suggested over time. As you let these things be known in a subtle, nonthreatening manner, if he feels the same way, he'll generally let you know how he feels as well. If he doesn't, then a bit more hint that you're interested in him. Kind the old Bonnie Rait song: "You laugh just a little too loud, you stand just a little too close, you stare just a little too long..." And something about white men: I don't know what skin tone you are, but in my observation, white men are not "colorist." If a white man has gotten his head past the race issue to a relationship with a black woman, he will tend not to have any skin tone or even hair hangups. If he had a hangup about light skin and long hair, he'd stick with white women. |
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| Same thread appears in the San Diego thread, in the OC thread, and so on, and so on. "The problem is most black men in this town are to [SIC] busy chasing white Becky's [SIC] or Hispanic Maria's [SIC] rather than a black woman." |
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| Dating is hard for just about anyone in the LA metro. However, I've seen quite black females with men of other races. And despite what the Stormfronter said, there's black men in LA who are into black females. |
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| Quote: Originally Posted by LuvSouthOC Same thread appears in the San Diego thread, in the OC thread, and so on, and so on. "The problem is most black men in this town are to [SIC] busy chasing white Becky's [SIC] or Hispanic Maria's [SIC] rather than a black woman." it appears you are right. |
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| Quote: Originally Posted by LuvSouthOC Same thread appears in the San Diego thread, in the OC thread, and so on, and so on. "The problem is most black men in this town are to [SIC] busy chasing white Becky's [SIC] or Hispanic Maria's [SIC] rather than a black woman." My first thought also. |
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| Quote: Originally Posted by DoIt2 Personally I am not attracted to black women but I can sympathize with you on the fact that black men do prefer women from other racial groups in this town. It is kind of pathetic actually how black men revere non-black women. I always get the sense that its a status thing for black guys to date non-black women. I hear the word "self-hate" used by black women and that is probably accurate when it comes to these black men. Don't worry because in the end statistics show that these interracial relationships with black men very rarely work out and most of those non-black girls tend to end up single mothers to biracial kids. Tell me who wants to date them with that baggage. I also read that even though it is not very common that when a white guys marries a black women it actually has the highest rates of stability over all other pairings. Take your time everything will work out in the end and you seem like a smart and professional women who is going places. Overall black men are often with black women. Yes some see dating a white or other non black woman as a status symbol. Now it's all good if you are attracted to others, but if it's to use as symbol, then that is pathetic. |
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| Quote: Originally Posted by LuvSouthOC Same thread appears in the San Diego thread, in the OC thread, and so on, and so on. "The problem is most black men in this town are to [SIC] busy chasing white Becky's [SIC] or Hispanic Maria's [SIC] rather than a black woman." Yeah. I saw the subject line and wondered if a certain poster was back. |
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